Last month, I wrote about Overcoming and Forgiveness, in relations to letting go of anger towards someone you care about. I still have not come to any hard conclusions yet but still ponder these things. The eclectic minds at Wikipedia suggest:
Forgiveness may be considered simply in terms of the person who forgives including forgiving themselves, in terms of the person forgiven and/or in terms of the relationship between the forgiver and the person forgiven. In some contexts, forgiveness may be granted without any expectation of restorative justice, and without any response on the part of the offender (for example, one may forgive a person who is incommunicado or dead). In practical terms, it may be necessary for the offender to offer some form of acknowledgment, apology, and/or restitution, or even just ask for forgiveness, in order for the wronged person to believe himself able to forgive.
I suppose (despite what the majority of diverse selections of random people online say) you don’t have to forgive to overcome and let go. Maybe its more of the former part of that title, the overcoming. Learning to overcome anger and let something go can be a tricky and long process. Perhaps I’m jut fighting my way out of that. We could parse the words to death but I’m not interested in that. Some call that in itself forgiveness. Some call it closure. I just need to find a way through.
If, practically speaking, it is necessary for the offender to show some slip of remorse or acknowledgement of wrongdoing, then that surely changes things. Many definitions are vague or include both possible definitions. Also, it can be hard to separate the original context of the meaning from the current connotation.
My hopes are that after some writing and various means of artistic expression, I will overcome this disappointment and bitter taste.
